Here he is, the little boy behind it all. Behind all the fuss and the negativity I recently experienced. It is this little innocent face who is just so thankful that his mother loves him so very much that she was compelled to cradle him, love him unconditionally and breastfeed him for 18 months.
He has no idea how much fuss his little bright eyes caused on Facebook just the other day. He has no idea that someone thought he and his mum were violating Facebook’s Community Standards on nudity.
Can you imagine saying to your little one sorry mummy can’t feed you here as we are in public, because someone might get offended, someone might think what we are doing is a violation to the community and that means you have to go hungry right now.
Well of course we were at home feeding on our sofa, enjoying our very normal day to day life. But what if we were out in a shopping centre and he needed feeding? It would be the same situation I would need to feed him, as any normal mother would. Whether a bottle or a breast.
I posted this picture of us feeding on my personal Facebook page just the other day, and was shocked to find that when I woke up in the morning that someone had reported my photo for nudity. Why is breastfeeding you a violation of privacy?
I wasn’t actually upset more completely shocked that someone on my friends list had thought our beautiful moment together was a violation.
But I was beyond pleased that Facebook did not find the picture a violation of privacy and that it was absolutely fine to have on my page. Thank you Facebook I am beyond happy that something as natural as breastfeeding is finally been seen for what it truly is.
I then wrote a comment to advise everyone of what happened, and was overwhelmed by all the lovely comments from my friends. It really touched me to find so many people so passionate about breastfeeding and so eager to reach out to me and advise me of how they felt.
There is nothing more heartwarming and comforting then women supporting other women in their choices and decisions. So I genuinely am so very thankful for all of your support.
What this experience has taught me, is that sadly people have a huge problem with human bodies. They have a problem with female breasts. But thankfully what is been made quite clear to me is that this is changing in the western world and we are becoming more accepting of the beautiful bodies that we are all hiding away. I don’t think others truly understand how daunting it is for a new mum to breastfeed in public, and how utterly heartbreaking it can be for an already vulnerable new mum to go through any negativity with regards to breastfeeding her baby.
For me after giving birth, been naked in front of strangers, legs wide open for all to see with a baby emerging out of me, screaming, crying, feeling pain I have never felt before, the rush of emotions, the euphoria of cradling my new precious baby, the struggles starting our breastfeeding journey, the sleepless nights, the early morning coffee and the nest of hair that seriously needs a brush, but I am too busy breastfeeding and not sleeping I don’t even care about my hair let alone brushing my teeth in the early stages. After giving birth I just don’t care about things like getting my boobs out to feed my beautiful new baby because there are worse things in the world.
Pregnancy, birth and the experiences that naturally come with it all, just emphasis that life is absolutely amazing and we sometimes take it all too seriously. Our bodies are truly magnificent, look at what they can do, in the case of a womans’ body: grow a baby, feed a baby, and survive sleep deprivation. All this makes it completely clear in my mind that a breast is a breast. Go through childbirth and then see if you think a mum feeding her baby is a violation of privacy and nudity.
So please if you are a new mum know that there are plenty of woman in fact millions all over the world that are supporting you that believe in you, that you are doing the most magnificent act in the world. Breastfeeding is tough in the beginning but it is the most rewarding and magical experience a woman can experience in life. So trust your instincts, believe in yourself and do what is best for you and your baby not what is best for the onlookers and judge’s. You are the only judge in your life that matters.