What does motherhood mean to me?

what motherhood means to me

Motherhood is everything and anything you want it to be. For me it has been an enlightening and soul reviving experience, because it has woken me up to the world, and all it has to offer. I can vouch for all other mums, that of each journey into motherhood each is purely a unique adventure and experience for each mum. No journey the same and non-identical, no matter what each mum has in common or does the same. This is the beauty of it, every one of us mothers has the power to create and live by any journey we want to.

My kids have shown me a life I never knew existed. A life full of the highest happiness a person can obtain. Albeit it wouldn’t be anything with the seldom struggles and really they have nothing to do with the children and everything to do with me, learning patience, contentment, and calmness.

I’m no longer stuck and drifting in life wondering what is going to happen next. Rather I am fully aware, I am in control right here, right now, and excited about the future, excited about what is going on right now in front of me. It’s beautiful and it is just as captivating watching my children grow, and watching my husband play with my children is even more heart-warming then as I had dreamed.

Motherhood although at the beginning, I felt it swallowed me up and took my identity right away from me. But, after some adjusting and becoming this mother on this journey, motherhood has actually defined me and given me a whole new identity that I am proud to have and even feel has made me a better person.

There are three very important things I think sum up what motherhood means to me and what is the purpose of this journey of motherhood, what does it teach you? Hopefully you will agree.

1. Loving your children so much you cannot explain it in words.

Motherhood is the process of learning unselfishness, putting your child before your every need, this is love and loving someone else forces you without regret and only with love to put the other person first. Because that’s instinct, its natural, I loved each of my children from the very first moment I found out I was pregnant even from the very beginning, I loved you then and my love has only grown for you and will continue to grow for you.

2. Being loved by your children, unconditionally.

When someone loves you unconditionally, you have a lot of responsibility. Aside from the most amazing feeling in the world, being loved no matter what, no matter if you’re in a bad mood, or if you burn their toast, they are still going to love you. What an amazing gift to be loved unconditionally by someone you only wish to do the best for and you love them back, when love works both ways it is the most amazing feeling.

3. Finding happiness in every moment.

What a beautiful opportunity my children have given me, to stop being swept away by the fast pace of society and live for the now. They have really taught me to be thankful for what is going on right now.

I can think of many more reasons to sum up what motherhood means to me, but to keep it simple these three hold the highest importance to me. For me motherhood is my entire life, it defines me, it makes me who I am, I own that and I am proud of that. I want to make my kids proud, I want to teach my kids lead and guide them into the best opportunities they should wish for, and I only hope to take them to better places. It all starts when you’re ready to take control, and for me, motherhood has taught me to take true control and learn to lead the way for my children, in turn it leads the way for me, I do it all in the best ways that I know how, for the greater outcome of myself, my husband, my children, and all my family.

Motherhood is about taking control, for all us woman, we no longer only have ourselves to worry about, but we are forced without regret to take care of and love and guide our children. Only when we take this gift given to us with love do we take our children exactly to where they want to go in life. We are their vessel in life to learn to live and that is not a job to take lightly. It is the most important and most special job any woman will ever have. Love what you do. Because sometimes I think society has a very powerful way of making a mums ‘job’ as such, seem unvaluable and that going to work a 9-5 job is more important than raising your kids. To every mum, no matter if you work or stay home with your children, you are the very best parent for your child, no matter what you do is for the greater good of your family and children, and is exactly how it is meant to be.

I feel us woman tend to doubt ourselves and the choices we make, looking back in hindsight. I am here to tell you, don’t look back, don’t doubt, this is where you are meant to be, at the most perfect place for you now as a person to grow and develop. You may not think so now, but when you look back you will see how every moment in your life so far has lead you right here to where you are now, and all is how it is supposed to be. When life throws you melons, just trust and know that. Don’t worry and relax, let life take you into the natural flow of things, like the tides take the waves and the moon makes the tides.

What does motherhood mean to you?



  1. January 5, 2015 / 11:37 am

    So funny, after I wrote a similar post to find this. You are spot on! Really enjoyed reading this x

    • Tanita
      January 5, 2015 / 11:46 am

      Thank you! X

  2. March 20, 2015 / 9:02 am

    This is lovely! Motherhood is indeed amazing and so personal to each person. I think love is heavily involved in everyone’s definition though 🙂 #TheList

  3. March 20, 2015 / 10:45 am

    Lovely piece – motherhood is so amazing yet so hard and so individual to each person! #TheList

  4. March 20, 2015 / 1:05 pm

    Such a lovely post. I agree on finding the joy in every small thing – if not I’d probably drive myself mad! It is such a big learning journey – good job they’re cute 😉 x

    • Tanita
      March 22, 2015 / 9:05 pm

      thank you Rebecca! Yes me too! definitely helps that they are so cute … 🙂 x

  5. March 20, 2015 / 7:47 pm

    This is lovely, I was feeling super grumpy after a tricky bedtime with my 3, but posts like these remind me to appreciate the ‘now’ a bit more x

  6. March 25, 2015 / 7:19 pm

    Beautiful post. Motherhood really does change you as a person in so many ways. It’s certainly made me a happier and more empathic person. It’s not always easy, in fact at times it’s incredibly tough, but it’s the most wondrous, enlightening journey I’ve ever been on and the greatest, most precious gift. x


    • Tanita
      March 26, 2015 / 9:03 pm

      just beautiful how you described it, x

  7. hannah mum's days
    March 26, 2015 / 1:46 pm

    Lovely post Tanita – you are so right and i love the point about taking control as a mother, it’s spot on. thank you for linking up xxxx #TheList