Life Lately {This too shall pass}


“Trust that everything happens for a reason, even when you are not wise enough to see it.” – Simple Reminders

As I sit down to write this I have my lovely dad over watching the boxing with Daniel. Daniel has been looking forward to this fight, he has been watching the build up all week. He loves his sport. I love that Daniel and I have our own interests and hobbies. Its nice that we both have things we enjoy together and separately. I also like just knowing he is just in the next room while I type away on my Macbook in our bedroom. I am blown away daily by the love we have. He never fails to lift my spirits when I am down and I am so lucky to have that in him. He is a special person and too modest about it too.

Although we are stronger then ever, we have been somewhat overloaded with life recently and it has been a little over whelming in our world lately. I don’t tend to blog about the tough times on my blog, number one being because I don’t think it will interest you and two because I am a positive person and I like to write about that. But lets be honest, life can have ups and downs too, and thats okay. Its okay to talk about it and to write about it.

Sometimes when I want to pour my heart out on here so to speak I hesitate and I don’t. I am very conscious about what I put on my blog. I am a peacekeeper and I don’t like to upset anyone. I’d much rather suffer in silence then speak out. Writing that down makes me realise how unhealthy that is. I must make more of an effort to write about how I feel.

Although life is good it has not stopped it from being overwhelming.

Our house it’s like a building site in places at the moment. In a few rooms actually. We are so eager to get things done we just want to make our home cosy, inviting and to our taste. There is something so satisfying about doing the work yourself although absolutely painstaking at times, it is nice to look back an know you made it happen. We have stripped our bathroom and hallway and have yet to finish our dinning room extension. In fairness we only stripped our bathroom last weekend so that’s not too bad going I don’t think.

Apart from desperately wanting to get our house finished we are really well. We have all been a little poorly recently but all recovering well.It seems that most of the time things seem to happen all at once, the house, we were ill, the weather was horrendous and there you go a recipe for everything to feel on top of us.

But we are just getting through the storm now and it feels so good to feel the clouds passing and that familiar feeling of prosperity and abundance washing over us again. That is one thing I learn from the harder times is that when the good times come they really are appreciated. They really are moments to savour and be present in. So I am looking forward to this next chapter for us and moving swiftly forward with the house.

Coming back to what I wrote previously about moving forward in life, I also believe that we don’t need to make problems out of situations. Rather see it as resolved and new and so it is. It really works. With relationships to. Especially for example if you have stopped seeing a certain friend not intentionally but in life sometimes that just happens. It is very important to look at it with the right eyes. It doesn’t matter, it’s okay. The right people are in your life at the right time. The people who want to be there are going to be there and the people who love and care for you are going to try no matter what. With any true friend it should be as simple as picking up the phone and carrying on where you left off no matter the time between or the distance. That’s genuine.

Sometimes we will be upset with a friend for not bothering when actually we might not be bothering as well. It’s good to look at your relationship and think what is this friend adding to my life… is it positive?

If it’s not and they don’t bother with you then surely it is only a win win situation on your part. I often see on Facebook people writing oh funny how friends don’t bother with me anymore. And I hate that I think it’s such a loose comment. Don’t get me wrong I have felt similar in the past. But let me tell you perspective is everything. In every single situation perspective is everything. It might be for the best too, as that particular friend who you don’t see anymore may not have being able to give you the friendship you needed. We all offer different things in life we all have different goals and ambitions. We look for different things in a friendship. And that is okay.

I fully trust that in everything I do in my life I am being looked after. No matter when we may feel out of our depth or challenged we will get though it and we are safe. Usually whenever a period of unease has happened we have an amazing period of prosperity just after which is always so amazing. Life is like that. It swings in roundabouts.

So I like to take everything with a pinch of salt and remember nothing anyone ever says to me is personal. More that it is their views and belief system not mine.

Oh growing older thank you for the ever growing perspective you give me. All I ask is to always be humbled kind and grounded.

May you all have the most blessed weekend with your families. Here is to getting more of our house finished this weekend!



  1. March 6, 2017 / 2:55 pm

    You are so wise, Tanita. Sending you a virtual hug and a listening ear should you need one.

    • Tanita
      March 6, 2017 / 3:00 pm

      Aw thank you so much Amber. You are the most wonderful person. I am so lucky to know you, thank you for being here xx

  2. March 6, 2017 / 3:01 pm

    You have a lot going on there! A house in turmoil would be enough to send me crackers 🙂

  3. March 6, 2017 / 5:26 pm

    I don’t think I could cope with a house like a building site! Will all be worth it in the end though 🙂

  4. March 6, 2017 / 9:19 pm

    Oh I feel for you. I spent the weekend repainting the girls bedrooms and that was bad enough. I’ve been there as we did a whole house in a few months 2 years ago. It’ll be so worth it when it’s done, it is also like childbirth, you forget how bad it was once it’s over! Xx

  5. March 7, 2017 / 10:06 pm

    This is all so true. It resonated with me so much. I hope you are all recovered from being ill now x

  6. March 7, 2017 / 10:14 pm

    I remember doing my house up and it took a year, half way through I totally lost the joy. It’s so good you’ve taken a step back to see the bigger picture.

  7. March 8, 2017 / 7:42 pm

    Wow. What a beautiful inspiring post. You are brilliant.

  8. March 8, 2017 / 8:05 pm

    Bless you lovey – I really feel for you. There’s nothing worse than not having things finished in your house. It’s really unsettling. Such wise words about perspective 🙂 x

  9. March 8, 2017 / 9:19 pm

    It has taken us 2 months to get my twins bedroom finished and it is driving me potty! We have done every room in the house and everything takes so much time doesn’t it when your doing it yourself. So I can understand how you are feeling, hugs x

  10. March 10, 2017 / 8:10 pm

    I hope the house is coming to an end soon. We moved into a new newly built the end of October and are still sorting stuff.

  11. March 10, 2017 / 8:52 pm

    It’s cool easy how the little thins can really send you bonkers!! I’m all about getting things finished as quickly as I can (especially in the house) so I fully understand how you must be feeling…just know it’ll come to an end soon and you’ll forget about all this in no time! X

  12. March 23, 2017 / 10:08 pm

    Tanita, I love the phrase ‘this too shall pass.’ I am considering buying a ring with that on; it really is a true and wise truth.

    I take my hat off to you guys. I am terrible at DIY and watching all these home improvement/building self-managed projects, I don’t think I can handle it.

  13. March 27, 2017 / 4:48 pm

    You’ve got a lot going on by the sound of it. I do love the quote “This too shall pass” it’s what I try and think of when going through a bad patch.

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