{Having a bad day} how in the world do you cope?


Today I had a really bad day! I really did. I cried, I felt bad, I felt rubbish, I felt useless and felt so absolutely exhausted and unworthy. Being tired doesn’t do good things to me. On top of all these feelings, which really do swallow a person up, I had two precious kids to look after. So I had no time to feel sorry for myself. I had a quick cry in the toilet sucked up the rest of the falling tears, wiped my face, and pulled on a smile for my kids.

As a mum you don’t have the choice to throw in your towel…

I found my self twitching most of the day to stop myself from yelling and moaning at the kids for absolutely nothing. As I tend to do when I am not myself and all over the place with my emotions.

I seriously hate it when I feel like this it’s probably the worst experience ever. When something goes wrong or a routine or structure in our lives is changed or starts changing I don’t always deal with it as well as I would like. I don’t know why but I think it might have something to do with loosing control or feeling like everything is out of control.

When you have two little ones who need you at your best, you need to be a well fuelled mummy. Well fed well slept, and well in general. But when negative feelings creep up on you, you kind of don’t have any where at all to run to.

For me today I was stuck in my four walls, with two crazy kids, and a messy house.

I had no choice but to come to my senses. I stopped myself feeling like a victim and I just cleaned the house and I cleaned and I cleaned. This did make me feel better but when we got home in the afternoon the kids trashed it again in just under an hour. Which was heart wrenching!

I think we can all agree that when we are in one of these moods even a messy house can feel like an absolute tragedy. I mean that is all I could see today, mess, and it depressed me even more than I was already feeling depressed.

All in all since last night when I broke my labtop, it fell off the sofa, I have been a mess I feel really sad lost and upset about it. That thing is and was everything to me. I’m a student and I blog (obviously) so I use it mostly every night and some days. (Writing this post on my phone) I have an assignment due on the 19th February and I need a new labtop ASAP.

Yes I’m feeling a bit down, so as any other normal human being would do, I am blaming it on something else. It was my laptop’s fault this time!

But I think it’s a number of things. Everything happens at once in life and right now it feels like I am in a non escaping hole in the ground and there is no ladder to climb out.

But there are three things that did help me today:

1. Don’t act on anger

As these moods can make you feel down don’t act on it when the kids push your buttons.

2. Stop for a moment and just breathe.

This really helps take away those pent up negative thoughts and feelings.

3. Grab your kids and hug and kiss them and tell them how much you love them.

This will never fail at making you feel better. It always works for me. I realise what is most important to me and I can really just stop making myself feel worse. Sometimes your children are your best healers. Little angels in disguise.

Hope you don’t have a bad day, but if you find yourself having one, know that I have them too.

And that they don’t last…

The List



  1. February 6, 2015 / 8:32 pm

    Oh Lovely 🙁 I’m so sorry you’ve been feeling so sad ((((hugs)))))
    Are you able to claim off your household insurance for the laptop?
    I hope tomorrow is a better day for you xxx

    • Tanita
      February 6, 2015 / 9:49 pm

      No. Don’t think so lisa. I am going to try sort it out this weekend. Thank you for the hug ended it! Hope you and Caiden are well x

  2. travelingchristie
    February 6, 2015 / 8:53 pm

    Yes its awful when you feel like that isn’t it? it definitely works to take 5 minutes doesn’t it. I hope you have managed to get your laptop sorted, what a nightmare x

    • Tanita
      February 6, 2015 / 9:47 pm

      Yes it is so awful! Tomorrow is a new day though. I am hoping so I am going to try this weekend x

  3. February 6, 2015 / 9:00 pm

    It happens to all of us – taking time out and taking time to breathe like you say helps loads. Hope you get your laptop sorted x

    • Tanita
      February 6, 2015 / 9:46 pm

      Thank you emz x

  4. February 6, 2015 / 9:14 pm

    I have found myself feeling like this at times and it’s always when the little things have piled up and got right on top of me. I’m now trying to sort the little things out as I go along! x

    • Tanita
      February 6, 2015 / 9:50 pm

      Yes you are so right Donna! It doesn’t happen often but it’s usually an inevitable cycle x

  5. February 8, 2015 / 10:43 pm

    This happens to me every few months – things get on top of me and I feel completely overwhelmed. All I need is a few moments to pull myself together, but getting those few moments are near impossible some day. I know exactly what you mean about getting twitchy – actively stopping yourself reacting to things which is so much easier said than done! xx

  6. February 11, 2015 / 1:23 am

    This sounds exactly like me when I am having a rough day. I clean because it soothes me and makes me feel great and then the kids come home from school and it’s like I did nothing all day. Next time I’m havign a rough day i will just breathe and hug it out with my kids. It is true though about not having the choice to substandard because kids need and deserve the best of you. Such a great post.

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