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The week has been a complete whirlwind, in the midst of it all there are moments that stick in my mind, dancing in the living room to the radio on our telly, Archie and I laughing. I can see it in slow motion so clearly his face a picture of happiness, his grin wide and dimples either side. Don’t you think moments like this flash before you in an instant but when you take a moment to look back those seconds can reply and last a lifetime in your mind?!

I have seen so many moments over the years I have many memories, all kinds. Specifically motherhood moments and memories that are embedded within my heart and my mind. Giggles of pure delight, baby hands touching my face. Looking into the eyes of my newborn baby and feeling the pure joy of life, seeing nothing but love and realising what is most important in my life.

But of course  in life there are also hard times, and we are coming into that phase as a family at the moment. I don’t really know if ‘hard’ is the right word to describe it but challenging non the less. Sophia is going into theatre tomorrow to have surgery. She is having a tonsillectomy. A tonsillectomy. I repeat that over and over in my mind. I am trying to come to terms with it. But I just cant. I cannot fully comprehend in my mind that tomorrow sometime after 7.30am we will be at hospital and Sophia will be in the care of someone other than me. Her life will be in the care of someone other than me. It will be highly skilled doctors and nurses, but, it wont be me. And that is scary.

I sat with her tonight before she went to bed and we had a lovely cuddle. I told her all sorts of wonderful things, that I am so proud of her, how lovely she is, how special and kind. I told her these things and I thought about tomorrow and all the while I held myself together. I held back those emotions that I am keeping locked inside. I stay strong for her. I tell her she is safe and she is going to be absolutely fine. But inside I am all over the place. Every time we talk about it I get a huge lump in my throat that I can’t swallow. I cant swallow it at all no matter how hard I try. I hold back the tears and I tell her how exciting it is that she is going to have a big telly and her own room at hospital just like the nurse told her. She has packed her bag with her white Elsa slippers from her cousin, her pj’s her granny got her for Easter, her favourite gown, her bunny that she sleeps with, and her iPad. I have popped a little gift in my bag for her too. She’s looking forward to having some ice cream afterwards.

When we went to her pre op last week I was terrified, I was so worried they were going to do a blood test on her but they didn’t.  When we arrived we had the most wonderful nurse. She was kind and caring and so soft spoken that I was  forced on many occasions to hold back my tears as much as I could, I was so close to bursting out crying more than once but somehow I managed to hold it all together, for Sophia. This moment is big for us. I have put off her having this operation for as long as I can. She was supposed to have it last year but again I put it off. So, here we are a day to go and I am feeling it. I hope and pray that I can hold it all in for my little girl so she doesn’t see how scared her mummy is. So that she goes in there with confidence and the reassurance that all is going to be okay and that she is going to come out better then she went in. I will be waiting for my cuddle.

I love her so much and I am reaching out for some love to be sent our way. Some really powerful love because I need it more then ever.

I have seen so many moments over the years, I have many memories, all kinds. Specifically motherhood moments and memories that are embedded within my heart and my mind. And I think this one might be the most challenging one so far.



  1. May 21, 2016 / 10:41 pm

    This is a beautiful post, and I can only imagine how hard this was. I hope that everything went okay and that Sophie is well on the road to recovery x

  2. May 22, 2016 / 9:07 am

    Oh God! I teared up reading this and the dread in my belly felt awful. I can’t imagine how hard it will be for you but take comfort in the fact she will be in very good hands. The doctors and nurses know what they are doing; they’ve done it numerous times before. It’s a ROUTINE procedure, not ground breaking or experimental. She will be fine.

  3. May 22, 2016 / 9:38 am

    Sending lots of love your way, you’re braver than you think and well done for holding back the tears. Great honest post x

  4. May 23, 2016 / 8:21 am

    My son has to have regular blood tests he’s 19 months old and it breaks my heart every time still. He cries and cries but I hold it together for him as you say you Us Mothers have to hold it together for the children don’t they. So glad your little one didn’t have to have a blood test on her pre op as it may have scared her for the op. Hope all goes well.

    • Tanita
      May 26, 2016 / 10:54 pm

      Bless you, I can only imagine how hard it must be for you to go through that regularly, sending you all the love too xx

  5. May 23, 2016 / 6:52 pm

    Oh bless you. I think by now Sophie will have been in and is home being looked after by you again. What a beautiful post. I get it too xxx

    • Tanita
      May 26, 2016 / 10:53 pm

      Thank you lovely x

  6. May 23, 2016 / 7:02 pm

    Hope she was OK and thinking of you so much – all the hugs and love xx

    • Tanita
      May 26, 2016 / 10:52 pm

      Thank you Jess xx

  7. May 23, 2016 / 10:05 pm

    Oh mama, I hope it all went well and you get all the cuddles in the world. Stay strong xxx

    • Tanita
      May 26, 2016 / 10:52 pm

      Thank you so much Kellie xx

  8. May 25, 2016 / 5:18 pm

    What beautiful writing! I can’t begin to imagine what this time feels like to you… I hope all went well. I often think that blogging is carthatic and I could feel you really poured your emotions into this, as parents there is nothing that goes against our nature so much as this sort of situation…putting trust into someone other than ourselves and our own parenting,…. Sending love to Sophia xx

    • Tanita
      May 25, 2016 / 5:26 pm

      Thank you so much Emily. Such lovely words. Yes very much so blogging does that. I definitely agree with you xx

    • Tanita
      May 26, 2016 / 10:18 pm

      Thank you so much Emily for your lovely comment. Yes blogging is exactly that in many ways. Thank you again so much xx

  9. May 26, 2016 / 10:31 pm

    Good God how I hate when the kids have to get bloods taken. My son actually is traumatised from his last hospital visit. I hope everything went well with Sophia…x

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