I feel incredibly lucky to have these two in my life. They are my favourite little people in all the world. Time passes so quickly and I knew that once Sophia was born we had to have one more child. I wanted more than anything for her to have a companion growing up. Someone she could play with, squabble with, and enjoy life with while growing up.
There is something about having siblings that changes the way you grow up. You learn so many life skills and socialisation skills they you wouldn’t necessarily learn if it wasn’t for having a sibling. I have two sisters, both younger then me and I wouldn’t change them for the world. Although I don’t see them as much as I would like at all, I have the fondest memories growing up with them. They were my best buddies and …. my worst enemies all at the same time. We had so much fun together. They were always there. I remember if I was scared in the middle of the night I would hop into my sister Shannon’s bed and cuddle up to her. I remember if mum and dad had upset me I cried on her shoulder. She always understood.
Then my mum gave birth to my other sister, Khaila, by this time I was 8 years old and I absolutely adored having Khaila. I got to be mummy and it was one of the best experiences of my life because I really felt like she was more then just my baby sister, I felt like her mummy too. Mum used to let me dress her and change her nappy and I felt so proud and so grown up that mum trusted me with this. More so I just loved being involved and pretending I was her mum.
I remember how mum and dad took us to the Transkei, or on family holidays around South Africa, I did it all with Shannon (and Khaila when she was born). It was nice to have them both. Holidays are always so much fun and as a family you all relax and its a huge bonding time for you all. You get to know each other more. I know first hand how important and special it is to have siblings and I wanted to give that to Sophia.
So when Archie came along my dreams for her become a reality and I was able to give her what I always had growing up, a companion.
The one huge difference which I have absolutely loved every moment of is that Archie is a boy. And the dynamics in their relationship are completely different to that of me and my sisters, from what I remember.
I have always let both children play with both boys and girls toys and actually I never make any comments as to say what they should or shouldn’t play with. I am a very gender neutral mum and don’t put any pressure at all. I like to think I allow them to be who they want to be.
One thing I enjoy tremendously is listening to their little conversations and watching them play. Their favourite game (probably instigated more by Sophia) is ‘Mummies and Daddies’. Sophia is mostly always the mum unless she invites Archie to chose. I don’t know what it is but whenever he chooses he gets a little overwhelmed with the responsibility and gives everyone 3 or 4 different titles: “tia you are big sister, you mummy and you granny tia” “I am a daddy mummy” he says “I am a big brother” Sophia always laughs. On many occasions she looks at me laughing and tells me how cute she thinks he is. He is very cute, but I love how she notices it too and tells me how she is feeling.
It has been lovely to have Sophia as his big sister, she is my wonderful little girl and watching her with him makes my heart melt. Most of the time she is very gentle and guides him. She likes to be in charge and I love that about her. I don’t want her to think being bossy is a bad thing. As long as she is not being mean she is okay to be as assertive as she likes. I only see that as a good trait and can only imagine it to boost her confidence.
Now that Archie is getting older they play together so much more. They will easily amuse themselves all day playing all different games and Archie learns so much from her. They really enjoy each others company, and between the both of them they learn patience, compromise and so much more. It is always a debate as to what to watch on telly because they both like different programmes so they compromise and watch a little of each, usually they are able to come to some sort of an agreement together.
I am looking so forward to the summer with them, I have a few planned days out with friends but mostly we are going to be free to do what we like and I am looking forward to it.