I am sure you have all heard of the saying New year New me right? I cant remember how many times I’ve heard this. How the diet starts on the 1st of January or the detox.
I just don’t relate to this and don’t live my life this way. Over Christmas I indulged but I didn’t overeat. I stopped when I felt full. I had all the intentions to drink lots of wine but decided when it came to it I didn’t feel like it. So, I didn’t. I just did what felt good and right for me at that moment. I don’t feel like I need to walk into January with a new diet plan or anything that I want to change. I am happy and content with my life. I have goals I want to achieve and things I would like to work towards but I think this is healthy.
I wanted to write this post because I don’t want you to get sucked into the new year new me mindset. Rather a new year more of what I love positive thinking goal achieving mindset. Thats more what feels good here.
Feed your mind
Going into the new year, the first thing that I think is so important is to feed your mind with all the positive, inspiring, uplifting things you can. From your space at home to what you wear, to what you read and choose to listen to on the radio and watch on the television.
The New Year is the perfect time just like a Monday is really, the New Year is just more powerful for intention setting, and the perfect time to focus on all the things you have in your life and the people you share your life with. To focus on them and make sure that you feel good spending your time doing these things and seeing these people. It’s no good saying you are going to look after yourself and put time and effort into the things you love if the people around you don’t support you and uplift you for who you are.
At the end of the day it is no one else’s business how you choose to live your life, as long as you are happy and your work creates better for you and others. When I say work it doesn’t necessarily mean a 9-5 job, it means making a community better, your children’s life better, helping at their school, being a friend to someone who needs you, giving back financially or physically to another, or your village. Offering emotional support to a family member. There are so many ways that your day to day work can give back. Even making a loved one dinner or a cup of tea. Looking after your garden is a way of giving back. These are all small ways we can give daily and we can share our love. We all have love to share and we all share our love differently. Which leads me onto my next tip for the New Year.
Love yourself first
I think this might be the most important tip I will give for a happy and healthy New Year! I don’t mean love yourself in an arrogant way. I mean love yourself in your way. For me this can be so many different things from daily tasks like feeding myself nutritious food to finding a pocket of my day to relax, have a cup of tea and listen to my favourite podcast. Show yourself love everyday. When you look in the mirror in the morning while brushing your teeth or in the evening when taking your make up off, tell yourself that you love you. It’s the first way to stat letting the good in, to nurture that positive mindset I have just spoken about above .
It’s up to you to uplift yourself everyday in little ways. I like to remind myself that we all only have this one body, its just us that we will have to live with for the rest of our lives so get comfortable with you and learn who you are everyday, grow, and love yourself. It’s not only freeing but it allows you to then love others. We can only love those around us as much as we learn to love ourselves. So the more love you have for yourself the more you can pour that into those around you.
Take away the pressure
Going into January 2020 should feel exciting but you shouldn’t feel any pressure to make changes to yourself. Go into the new year the same you, the you that is worthy right now. The one that has learnt and grown so much over this last year, the one that has put in the work has stretched themselves to the edge. The one who deserves to still be that amazing person with just a little less pressure.
I feel like 2019 was the year of huge change and challenges for a lot of us. I feel like we have almost come full circle and learnt so much and that 2020 is an offering to us to live out our best lives, after all the work we have put in over this last year. Let us do that, let us just keep being us there is no pressure, absolutely non to be anyone else than who we are now.
Its okay not to share and not to give everything
I think in the social media world there is pressure to share so much to show all sides of you so that you are seen as authentic, so people are able to see the ‘real’ you.
But it’s okay not to share everything, it’s okay to have a level of privacy for you and your family. It’s okay to keep some things to yourself. It’s something I will be taking with me into 2020 and know that I don’t need to be everything to everyone. I can still be me and give what I can and that is enough.
I am that person that exhausts myself in giving to others especially if someone has given to me, no matter what I have going on in my life I will push myself to reciprocate even if it leaves me on my last legs. I think this can relate to a lot of us in all walks of life. That we can all try and give so so much to others we leave nothing or little for ourselves. We give so much it takes a lot to replenish our own energy, it takes a lot to give back to ourselves. So going forward to have a happy and healthy New Year it’s okay to not share everything, and it’s okay not to give everything too. Surround yourself with people who get it, who understand and who don’t make you feel unworthy.
Just take each day as it comes
And lastly as much as plans and goals are amazing they give us motivation and something to work towards we must also not forget that sometimes life throws us curveballs. Sometimes the current life has for us (like the current of the sea) it takes us in a completely different direction… be open to that.
Allow life to take you. Go with the flow and try not to resist it because it could lead you to the most beautiful destination. And knowing that sometimes life has other plans no matter how you try to enforce control and work towards your gaols what is meant for you will be for you.
Knowing that helps me to live each day as it comes. It helps me tremendously to just stay here now and live for this moment rather then thinking about tomorrow or a month from now and wondering how I will do this and this and this… rather keeping my mind on the present helps me stay calm, enjoy the now and appreciate all I have today.
A little motto I carry with me always from 2014 when I did my Reiki Attunement … ‘for today I will not worry, for today I will be grateful for all my blessings’ This is just a short expert of it. It reminds me to stay in the present moment.
I think ultimately life is what you decide to make it. You have the power to make 2020 your year. You really do! I hope you leave here feeling inspired, and I wish you the most amazing 2020.