I wanted to come on and just have a word dump post about something thats been on my mind lately, conversations with friends and how I shifted my mindset over the years.
A huge thing that I’ve learnt over the years is not to judge people. We all have our own battles we have all worked hard to get to where we are today. If you judge someone you won’t ever have the opportunity to love them and I think thats so true. We can all be scared of judgement I was, and sometimes I still feel that but I’ve learnt those passing thoughts will come but its our perspective on them and our choice to not believe them or give them power.
I was talking to a friend of mine who was saying how she thinks people will judge her and think she is not being honest because how she suffers is not always visible to others. My heart went out to her because Ive felt like that, where i’ve not been confident in myself so anything I did or any way my day went I’d judge myself and think others were judging me too. My biggest success was overcoming this. Being able to accept me for me and rewiring the way I felt about myself. Affirmations helped. Talking to myself in a positive way. Accepting me for me.
I was talking to another friend about how she has found her passion how she loves so much what she does and the job satisfaction of being able to help others is just so high for her. This made me so happy to hear this and reminded me how lucky I am to be in a job I love. I genuinely feel so lucky, it’s amazing the opportunities that exist. I feel so proud of myself that I was able to start something up from scratch and create it into something where I can earn a living from and stay home with my children. Sometimes I take it for granted that I am able to work from home. But then there will be moments and conversations that spark something in my mind and remind me, wait a minute look what you’ve created look how far you’ve come and I’ll feel grateful.
Its definitely not easy working from home there is so much to it, its a juggle around family life just like it is for any mother. I am so glad I have friends online who are in the same position and understand. I know when Arthur goes to school in a few years I will have more time. I have so many plans and another business I’d like to start up.
One of my biggest passions which I don’t really talk about online because its daunting to open up, is to help others who have felt like I have in the past and to help them overcome that, others who have wanted more from their lives but not known where to start, i’ve been there, and I want to show you how. I seemed to start my online journey feeling like I didn’t fit in and just muddling along being me. Hoping that by sharing my happiness and how the simple things make me feel good I was hoping that by showing it, it would make you want to live your life to the best of your ability too. But there is so much more to it, not everyone is able to change their thoughts and life by watching someone else. We have all come from somewhere we all have hurts that need to be healed and some of us need help in turning our mind into a positive one. I needed the support 7 years ago and I found it. It has been life changing for me. I want to now be that help to others who need me.
I think some of us need a bit more of an explanation a bit more of a push and support, just like I did.
All know is that no matter if you in a dark place right now, or you don’t feel good about yourself you can absolutely get out of that place and stay out forever. Life always works out for the best, but having that trust in life in the first place is so important, and even more important, let life love you. Allow the love in, it comes from all over the place so work on letting it in. We can all be guilty of pushing it away.
I still actively catch myself thinking… ‘I don’t deserve this’, ‘how can this amazing experience be happening to little old me’ Then I just take a moment to allow myself to feel that and remind myself that I do deserve it and to let the love in.
I hope this post made some sort of sense and you enjoyed the read. I hope you all have a lovely week.