Happy New year! I hope you had an amazing festive Christmas with your loved ones and saw in the New Year the best way you know how, I am thinking of those of you who have not had all the ones you love with you this year, and those who couldn’t be here with us all. We saw in the New Year as we do each year since the first year I met Daniel 10 years ago, we were in bed before 11pm tired from the Christmas fun and so happy to have each other, our family and three healthy happy children.
I have never really set any new years resolutions. I prefer to set goals that I think are going to add to my life and make it better or keep working towards what I already am. I am a firm believer that if you want to do something you do it now and not wait until the perfect time or the new year. Do it now if you really want to.
Daniel and I have started setting monthly goals we would like to achieve particularly in our careers and life choices regarding our health and exercise. But here I have written my goals for the year to do with me as a person and how I feel about the world I live in and my reality. What do I want from life? What continues to bring me happiness?
I see so many people around me struggle for peace and happiness and it breaks my heart. Because I know that we truly are able to live a life that we love. It has taken me years to achieve what I have today not really have I ever sat down and appreciated what I have now. But I really do appreciate it. Just before Christmas I went through some old notes I had made back in 2014 before Archie was 1 years old and one of the goals I had set that stuck out to me the most was: ‘be self employed and work from home so that my work is flexible around my children’ Here I am in 2019 living that exact goal and dream I had years ago. It really has been a long journey for me and I have had to learn loads along the way. I have so many more career goals and things I want to achieve and business’s I want to set up. But right now I am sole carer for my Arthur and so I will do the best I can with him home and until he is old enough and I feel ready for him to start preschool.
But either way as the new year starts I just want to remind you that anything is possible, a thought is just a wish until you work towards it, only then does it become a goal. I love this but can’t remember where I read it but it really resonated with me and I wont ever forget it.
Life is amazing and let us never forget that, not ever. Happy new year and here are my 5 things that are going to help me make the most of 2019.
Keep doing what makes me happy
It is the simple in things that make me happy, being able to work from home, exercising, eating healthy, lots of family time, give more of my time to the children, cleaning and looking after my home, earning money, saving more money, being more financially conscious and not spending just because.
I want to work on being less stressed
What seems to make me stressed is when I have too much on my plate and I don’t give myself the time or space to complete it. I put it all on me, I don’t ask for help from anyone, whether thats childcare or some time out to work I find it hard to ask, even asking my mum or Dan to have the kids for a few hours so I can work, instead I stay up late or try and squeeze it in between Arthur’s naps during the day or even some days if I have a deadline Il work while he is awake, I don’t like doing that if I can help it. I do really want to remind myself that there are enough hours in the day I just have to motivate myself in the earlier part of the evening when all the children are asleep.
Take on more work and manage my time better
Following on from above, I know this might seem like a contradiction but I do want to take on more work this year but I also want to be able to manage my time better. This will be Arthur’s last year at home until I will think about sending him to preschool. I want to be there for him as much as I can but also be able to juggle work well too. I really enjoy working from home, being able to pay some of our household bills and even pay for our family holidays throughout the year, really means a lot to me and gives me such great satisfaction to be able to have my own money to manage.
Take pressure off
As much as this is a contradiction of the above as much as I want to take on more work and spend more time with Arthur I also want to make sure I don’t put too much pressure on myself. I really enjoy being busy and doing many things at once but sometimes it hits me and this does cause me to get run down a bit quicker because I don’t always listen to myself and rest. Something I have actually been doing over the last few months is to just go with the flow and don’t stress over the small stuff. Remind myself life is as it is and has its own flow for each of us, the more we swim with the tide instead of against it the easier it will be.
Something I always say to everyone is to just go with the flow and let life play out at the same time if things don’t always go to plan don’t stress and remind yourself everything is working out.
Sometimes I don’t practice what I preach and can let things overwhelm me. But this year I want to take my own advice and just go with the flow of life. I trust it always leads me in the right direction. This last year Dan and I have put so much of our life in order for the future I’d like to think we are starting to set ourselves up for what we would like to achieve over the next five years and even just over this year, 2019. Its a big year for us.
Lastly enjoy life
The last few years as you can probably see if you read my last few years resolutions posts which I will share at the end of this post, is that I’ve been on a huge personal mission to be happy everyday and not be searching for it.
I feel like this last year I was able to live happy, be in the moment fully and I feel I achieved what I set out to do all those year ago. I’ve been through major healing with my mind and body my perspective and anxiety that I feel fully in control of me. I don’t have moments of panic or moments where I’m anxious emption runs over me. I’m in a really good place with me and it’s feels really good. Its taken a lot of effort on my part but its been so worth it. I think I’ve just learnt to let go of the things I can’t control and embrace what I have now while still working towards my goals. Of course some days I don’t have feel in control and I can let my mind take over for a short period but this is mostly short lived and after a good sleep and taking back my control I’m back to my positive mindset. One thing I have learnt is to take control of my thoughts and this has helped me tremendously. Just get up and go, just do, don’t overthink, don’t sit, don’t wait. Live for the day.
If there’s any advice I could give you for the year ahead it would be to just ‘do’ you, do what makes you happy and all of the above, don’t forget to enjoy it. Life’s short and we are here to be happy, healthy and make the most of all of it.
All my love and a very happy new year to you and your families. Thank you so much for following our blog and journey here online, thank you all my friends and family online and offline for you continued support, love and care. You all mean the world to me.
Now we have three children (I had just had Arthur so didn’t write a January 2018 post)