On feeling overwhelmed

just overwhelm

Sometimes when I am feeling a little overwhelmed, a bit down or stressed I have to take a step back from it all. Of course I cannot take a step back from my children so this is more along the lines of my space here. When I am low on energy this is what gets neglected. And that in itself creates more stress because this space of mine is forever on my mind. What I try to do is focus my attention back to the simple joys in life. My everyday life makes me happy, but sometimes I take it for granted. Taking that step back allows me to re kindle my thoughts and keep focused on what is truly important to me.

I was talking to a friend of mine the other day, and we were just discussing how very important, as a mother, it is to have ‘you’ back. Everyday you are their mummy, their nurse, their comfort, their everything, it is very easy to loose yourself and to not meet your own needs. But you must never be forgotten because you are the roots of your family. You grow the tree right out of the earth and give it the strong roots and foundation it needs. Without a fully functioning and happy mother the tree doesn’t do very well. It is so important to water your roots. That means tend to yourself and nourish yourself with more energy, food, sleep and time… specifically time to yourself.

I know first hand how very hard time to yourself is to come by. Being a mother and so I can relate to you if you are thinking to yourself where do I find that ‘me time’. The answer is, you need too. You must make it your priority to find little pockets of time that you are able to have to yourself. Even if it is just a couple of hours when you can.

If finding those hours are near on impossible there are other things that can be done to take a step back and re kindle your thoughts. I love to cook for my family and the smells of a homemade meal making its way through our house has a way of making me feel comforted. It reminds me of my childhood and how lucky I was to feel this way. I now feel even luckier to pass on these feelings to my children.

I like to be outside, whether at home in my garden or exploring the beautiful natural life here where I live. There is always something to see and something to re ignite those grateful feelings and give inspiration. I love reading, I very much enjoy autobiographical books with a philosophical sort of genre. I love life and I love reading how other people have lived and created theirs. To me that in itself is magic. I love having small pockets of time in my day where I feel fully conscious and able to appreciate the everyday things we take for granted.

Now that I am a mum I have been able to capture the beauty of life in a completely new way and I find joy in waking up to my children every morning. I get cuddles and kisses, they are warm and snuggly, their skin hot to the touch from being wrapped in their duvet all night. Their hair all over their face and their little lips so kissable their little faces so sleepy. But they are awake and they need you, to feed them and help them get ready for their day. I find most mornings so special, now that we have a lovely sense of calm here and it is the mornings I appreciate the most. I revel in pure joy when I see my children giggling and laughing. I am taken aback by how happiness shines out of their little bodies and lights up the whole room. What worries, what problems you say? Their little giggles take all that away, always.

So no matter if I might have had a tough couple of weeks, I am back now and ready to appreciate every single moment of my life like I do best. I think its easy to loose yourself a little bit, and I also think it is very normal. We are human after all, with all our beautiful imperfections, but again we choose what is part of our identity and what defines who we are. 

Thank you for always being so lovely and caring! I owe so much to the blogging community, family and friends for always supporting me.



  1. Kerry
    July 15, 2016 / 7:34 pm

    Glad you took some time out to help make yourself feel better. I feel like this sometimes and totally know where you’re coming from xxx

    • Tanita
      July 15, 2016 / 7:58 pm

      Thank you so much lovely, it is nice to know I am not alone in the feelings. Xxx

  2. July 15, 2016 / 8:29 pm

    aww this is such a sweet post and its lovely to hear you’ve taken some time out! it is definitely needed by all mamas if we want to keep a sense of self and sanity. x

    • Tanita
      July 15, 2016 / 8:35 pm

      Yes it so important although hard at the same time. Thank you so much Lori for your lovely comment, means a lot x

  3. July 15, 2016 / 9:13 pm

    I do much the same which is one I haven’t really blogged a great deal recently. I think it’s because our heads are always full … with our children, our daily lives, with everything that’s going on in the world … and unless you give yourself a little bit of time and space, it’s hard to sit down at a computer and find the words. Glad you’re feeling better xx

    • Tanita
      July 15, 2016 / 9:19 pm

      Aw thank you so much Rachel. It is definitely hard to get it right all the time. But it’s definitely a work in progress. It was hard to take the time out because being away was playing on my mind. But back to my normal tricks now and I feel good. Thank you so much for your lovely lovely words X

  4. July 18, 2016 / 7:35 pm

    Glad you’re feeling better lovely, it can all get so overwhelming at times can’t it and I know exactly how you feel. xx

  5. July 20, 2016 / 8:48 pm

    I really needed to read this post today. I’ve been feeling so incredibly low lately and i think I have forgotten my own needs. Or even not forgotten but can never find the time to sort me out.

  6. July 20, 2016 / 8:59 pm

    I had to take some time away, just to switch my brain off a bit, it helped lots so I’m glad it did for you too.

  7. mummyofboygirltwins
    July 26, 2016 / 7:04 pm

    Yes I can relate to this too 🙂 I am glad you took some time out – helps SO much. I also feel like this sometimes and totally know where you’re coming from too. Jess xx

  8. Michelle Bradbury
    September 10, 2017 / 8:12 pm

    Time for self is so very often forgotten in the hustle and bustle of every day life. I lost myself for a while each time my children were small, and as they grew I remembered the things that I like to do and now that one has flown the nest, with the other entering puberty, I find that I can occasionally take a moment or two to do things that I like. Even better, one of them might even enjoy it with me! I hope you always find that little pocket of peace and keep it close. xx

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