If you were to have told me 10 years ago I was going to be a mum at 21 I would have thought you were crazy. But I did. I became a mum at the tender age of 21 to my beautiful daughter Sophia, who has altered my identity and helped shape me into the woman I am today. I owe her so much for giving me the confidence I so needed to believe in myself and my abilities not only as a mother but as a woman.
It is true, giving birth not only gives you a beautiful bundle of joy to fill your days with happiness and of course hurdles to overcome, but it gives birth to you, it awakens the nurturing, soulful, and powerful enchantress inside of you. The true woman you have been hiding away for all those years, the one that cared far too much what people thought, the one that judged herself, the one that doubted.
So putting all this into perspective and reflecting had me thinking. What can other woman hope to learn from becoming a mum?
I just want to say before I carry on that I am not here to reflect on the bad stuff, the bad times have gone, but to hopefully empower woman and inspire them with the lessons I have learnt and what has helped me bloom on this motherhood journey up until now.
Raising yourself up, even when you are feeling down can be a tough task I have been there but if you really make an effort and a real point of trying to overcome these feelings it will not only raise your mood but attract good things to you as well.
I will start now and list some of the many simple things that can empower you. I hope as you read through them you think, wow! Yea! That’s so true I do that to raise my mood daily without even thinking.
Clean your home
Keeping your home clean and tidy raises your mood and as you clean happy endorphins are released. I know with children this can be hard to keep on top of, but it must be done to keep everyone happy, and family life organised.
Go for a drive, a bike ride or a walk anything that gets you moving. When we are moving we are raising our mood. As opposed to just sitting on the sofa in our pj’s feeling a little low. The fresh air and sunshine through the car windows can do a bad mood the world of good.
Get ready for the day even if you are staying home
No matter if you are heading out or staying at home, get dressed in clothes that make you feel good, apply some make up and do your hair if that makes you feel better. I know it does for me it lifts my mood almost instantly. I feel good about myself, fresh faced and ready to face the world so to speak.
Watch something that makes you laugh
Some good telly never hurt anyone. Laughing makes everyone feel good.
Listen to music that makes you feel good
I can always guarantee that if I’m not feeling my best music will lift my spirits. Music that you enjoy almost always makes you feel better. There is nothing I enjoy more than sticking on my favourite tunes and listening away while I clean my house, especially while I clean the kitchen as I do this at least three times a day. You know the drill with a one year old.
Exercising raises your heart rate and raises your energy levels drastically. It really does make you feel one hundred times better.
For me if I am feeling down I turn to my husband or mum for a hug. I always feel so much better to know someone loves me even when I am not loving myself like I should.
Eat a chocolate
Chocolate makes you feel good!
Lying on the sofa or your bed with your hands on your body, visualising, relaxing, meditating whichever, they are all good for your health they allow you to re connect after a busy day. Give your mind a moment to rekindle your most important thoughts. I try and accomplish this every evening before I go to bed.
Read motivational quotes
I enjoy doing this so much. It really inspires me to keep going stay motivated and achieve what I have set out to do. One of my favourites is Oprah Winfrey’s quotes and Abraham Hicks.
Spend time with loved ones
This always lifts my spirits I honestly mean that. When I have a weight on my shoulders I can almost always count on a family member to help lift it whether it’s just been in the room with them, eating dinner with them, sharing in their company or having a talk. It all helps.
I hope you enjoyed reading some of my simple steps to keeping yourself motivated as a mum. I enjoy so much finding out how other mums cope and deal with the usual trials and tribulations that come with being a mum. Of course the happy times always outweigh the bad, and the bad are far and few between. But like the best of us I can find myself not feeling great some days, maybe from lack of sleep or the constant tantrum-ing toddler but all in all if I keep this list close by I can be rest assured that my mood will be lifted instantly by trying one or more of the above.
Do you have any tips to keep your mood up on a bad day? Please comment below