Ten things my mum taught me about life


My wonderful mother has taught me many things in my 25 years of life, and she is still teaching me now. The most rewarding part of our life together is that we have become friends, and for this I am thankful for. Because to be friends with the woman who raised you, is a wonderful thing.

1. Always be kind:

My wonderful mother is an overly kind person she goes out of her way for everyone.

This has taught me to be kind to others, even when they are not so kind to me. I see her logic now kind people are good people. Being kind builds community’s, encourages people and lifts people up when they may really need it.

2. You are in control of your own feelings and thoughts:

Mum has always taught me this, and when I was young and I didn’t know as much as i did now, I used to think that she was disregarding my feelings, or just totally wrong, I was certain that people could make you feel bad.

However as I have grown I have learnt I am in control of how I feel, when I first wake up in the morning and how I continue to make myself feel throughout the day is my own doing.

To this day this advice has had the most profound affect on me because I am living with this attitude right now and I’m happy. Of course sometimes someone will make you feel bad, but then you need to look at yourself, and any insecurities you may have, and remind yourself that you are loved and to stand by what you believe in.

3. Always use your manners:

Mum has always taught me to say please and thank you. Manners gets you further and people have more
time for people who use their manners.

Besides who doesn’t say please and thank you nowadays?

4. Work hard for nothing comes easy:

I couldn’t thank my mum enough for constantly drilling this into my head, year after year. At the time I thought my head might explode from the constant repetition, especially through my GCSE’s, but now I know that not only is that advice completely valuable it’s the truth.

5. Love conquers:

Mum has always loved me, always held my hand, cuddled me, and being my shoulder to cry on. Even when sometimes she had no advice for me, she was just there and that is all I needed at the time.

In turn I continue to raise my children with unconditional love, because love really does make everything better.

6. To be thankful:

My mum always tells me how lucky I am to have everything I have, even if it may not be a lot in everyone else’s eyes. She taught me that I have everything I could possibly need and want.

Thanks to my mum, i value the small things, because they are the big things, I am one of the wealthiest people in the world, with the abundance of love and happiness I have around me and share with many many beautiful people, gives me many of the things some people yearn for and never have.

My mum taught me to never forget how lucky I am in my life. Thank you for this one mum!

7. That there is good in everybody

Mum will be able to find the good in everybody, even someone who has mistreated her or taken her for granted. In her eyes people are good.

They may be dealing with issues of their own that we are not aware of which makes them angry at the world and nasty to people around them. That’s not our fault. So let their negativity go, it’s theirs, don’t own their negativity. But try to remember there is always something good in a person.

8. Everything of importance takes time and lots of effort (like raising kids):

This I relate to so well now that I have my own kids.

The effort I put in now with my children, reading to them, disciplining them, teaching them, and loving them takes effort and lots of time on mine and my husband’s part. But it’s all for the most worthwhile job in the world, raising good people and thriving children.

So thank you mum for this one because I am able to take my time and be patient for once in my life, we both know well, something I have always struggled with.

9. Eat good food:

Mum always tried her best to offer us new and fresh natural foods growing up. Well it’s all finally paid off mum cause not only do I offer my kids the same but I myself take great pride (most of the time) in what I put into my body.

10. Finally mum taught me how to be a strong confident and happy woman.

My mum is a wonderfully positive person, even though in her job she is surrounded by a lot of negativity. She on the face of it is the most happiest person I have ever met. I remember growing up thinking how lucky I was to have this mum, this woman, who was and is so strong and happy, she has taught me this too, I am a strong, confident, and happy woman, and I am so thankful.

If your reading this mum, thank you for everything, for sacrificing, for teaching and for loving me the way you do.

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  1. December 19, 2014 / 10:13 am

    Love this so much, your Mum sounds like mine and I was nodding my through all these points. Really needed to read this today too! Thank you #thelist x

    • Tanita
      December 19, 2014 / 10:28 am

      Thank you so much! x

  2. December 19, 2014 / 12:14 pm

    Mums are great, aren’t they? Was reading this and nodding, things you mentioned that my Mum HAS taught me, but I hadn’t thought about.


    • Tanita
      December 19, 2014 / 7:00 pm

      Yes they truly are, a shoulder to lean on when needed, and the voice of reason and inspiration in times of need. x

  3. December 19, 2014 / 7:41 pm

    This is a lovely post! All such valuable things to be taught, and to pass on. Mums are the best! #thelist

    • Tanita
      December 19, 2014 / 8:27 pm

      They really are. Thank you x

  4. December 19, 2014 / 9:33 pm

    I don’t appreciate my mum enough. These are all lovely and important things to learn. She taught you well!

    • Tanita
      December 19, 2014 / 9:37 pm

      Thank you! I think when you really sit down and think about it it all comes to you. I feel very lucky to have my mum. But that doesn’t mean sometimes we have our moments. Mums and daughters will always be best friends and best friends don’t always agree 😉 x

  5. hannah mum's days
    January 2, 2015 / 8:59 am

    Really Great post Tanita xxx Your mum is such a wise woman and how wonderful to have such a strong female role model. Thanks for sharing her words, I’m going to bookmark this to read back when I’m struggling xx

    Thanks for linking up to #TheList and supporting us throughout 2014! Happy New Year xxxx

  6. January 10, 2015 / 12:42 pm

    Hello. Just discovered your lovely blog through #TheList. What a inspiring post, your mum sounds wonderful and has given such great advice to you. If we had a printer at home I’d print this off and stick it somewhere! What a gorgeous photo of you both too 🙂

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