For a couple of nights last week bedtime was not my fortay. The kids tested me, I shouted and become frustrated. Not exactly how we like bedtime in our house.
But one night was different. My husband was out and it was just me and the children. I had one either side of me, my one arm under Sophia’s neck and my hand resting on her chest. My other arm underneath Archie’s neck holding his hand. I kissed his forehead I kissed her face, I kissed his beautiful baby lips, I kissed her little hands.
I lay in bed, I was flat on my back looking up into the darkness. I could make out the shadows in the room, the children’s bookshelf and curtains. I thought about this moment and it hit me like it always does that I am so extremely grateful to be laying here in the middle of the two of them. We are warm, snug and filled with the breathe of life. I am happy, joy dances in my heart so much so I couldn’t fully express it without giving you a hug to feel it too.
It’s real this feeling, it’s intense, it is all consuming. It grabs you forcefully and wraps itself firmly around your body and heart every single day and it doesn’t let go. Even if you are angry or frustrated it holds you closer, it’s looks you in the eyes, gives you the familiar smile that melts your heart, it is love, unconditional love. It is inbuilt in you and your children. It is in everything and everyone. I get this feeling so very often that I have learnt to act on it. I act on it as much as I can. Because it makes me happy to see my children happy, to dance in the joy they experience, to have fun and to laugh together.
When you look at your children and your heart beats with pride, act on it, run over and squeeze them tightly and tell them that you love them.
When they fall over and hurt their knee for the fifth time the same day, after you have repeatedly told them not to jump off the slide many times, don’t get angry, sweep them up in your loving arms and tell them how much you love them.
When they won’t go to bed and they are running around the house like headless chickens at nine o’clock in the evening, don’t get angry sweep them up and tell them how much you love them.
Don’t you think children bring a joyful never ending energy to the home?
Never let them go to sleep sad even if it takes every bit of strength in you after a long day to just tell them how very special they are and how important they are to the family. It is so important to me to make sure my children go to bed knowing how very special they are. I want them to know that there is no one like them, that they are unique. They are the centre of my world and letting them know that instills in them the power and control to believe in who they are and what they can achieve. I take great joy in building them up. And when they are grown I will take greater joy in seeing their unique dreams becoming their reality. Life is a wonderful gift and I am so very lucky to watch my son and my daughter grow.
Life is fleeting. And you never know what could happen, sometimes there are hiccups on the road. I don’t let anger or frustration take over the unconditional love that I hold deep inside of me.
Never let the negativity overshadow the beauty in you and the beauty in your children. Some days are hard, some days are testing but most days are amazing and it’s about making the magic now. Because now is all we really have for sure and now we can count on to make our dreams and our children’s dreams come true.
Give unconditional love now. Because at least for sure they know now that you love them so very very much.
It was in the very beautiful moment that I put my children to sleep. A moment I repeat every single evening and some lunch times with my son for his nap. It is this moment that I take for granted each day and it is this moment that is most special. How truly magical to watch your child drift off to sleep peacefully and happy after a busy day. It makes it all worth it. To see them resting their eyes and relaxed in a beautiful slumber with me in the middle.
I woke up to find them both in my bed the following morning, I took the opportunity while they were both sound asleep to get a couple of photographs.
I promise I will remember these moments forever and I promise I will look back on this with both of them when they are twenty one!